Bring some self-kindness to your study

Many students would benefit from a little more self-kindness and self-compassion. The ways in which you approach studying can add greatly to its inherent challenges and difficulties. 

Select the headings below and consider which, if any, apply to you.

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Pushing towards unreasonable goals, rather than being inspired by good, aspirational ones.

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Assuming that all future success hinges on a particular degree or grades, instead of considering the many options that are available now or that can be created across a lifetime.

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Limiting options by deciding something is 'not for you', 'boring', that you already know everything or that you can't learn in a particular group, rather than being open to possibilities and taking action to make things work.

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Taking on too many things at once, making disappointment or failure more likely.

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Being self-critical or blaming others when things don't go brilliantly, rather than focusing on the valuable lessons to take away from the experience.

Pause for thought

  • How does your approach to study add to pressures you are under?
  • How could you be kinder to yourself in the way you think about or approach study?
  • Do you ever drive yourself to achieve, to the extent that you lack compassion for what your mind or body really need? If so, how does that lack of self-kindness manifest itself?

Record your observations and reflect upon them. What do they tell you about yourself and your approach to study?

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